Why You Shouldn't Sleep With Your Bird

Why You Shouldn’t Sleep With Your Bird

 September 14th, 2014
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I was chatting the other day with Wendy, who answers the phones here at Birdtricks.com. Out of curiosity, I asked her about the nature of the phone call she gets. Some, of course, are customer service related, some are from people are looking for advice, but she explained that she gets a concerningly high number of calls from people whose birds have died. Sometimes these people are calling to cancel their toys or pellets subscriptions and in the midst of the conversation they fall apart. Wendy, being awesome, offers them a shoulder to cry on and helps them deal with their grief or the inevitable guilt that follows the death of a pet.

Of course, I asked her about some of the most common causes of death. That information tells us what we need to bring to people’s attention to help them keep their bird’s safe and healthy. I was very surprised to learn that she had TWO calls in one recent week where the deaths were the result of parrots sharing the bed with their humans.

I’ll be honest. There is nothing as heart-meltingly sweet as falling asleep with your parrot nestled against your body. I think it’s a combination of their softness and warmth, their smell, combined with the knowledge that they trust you so fully that they allow themselves to let go and fall soundly asleep. It’s a very memorable event and one that I am sure you are having no trouble calling to mind as you read this.

Now let me add one more image to that scene. Imagine waking up to find that bird beneath you – lifeless. Imagine your despair as you torture yourself by reliving the incident again and again – your bird suffocating beneath the weight of your body and you sleeping peacefully through it all.

Sorry about that.

I know that was unpleasant to read. But that was the exact scenario described to me by someone I was doing a consult for some years ago. One afternoon, she took a nap with her bird perched on her chest and woke up to find her bird under her. I think it is important to point out that this was a goffins cockatoo – not a budgie or a cockatiel.

Military macaw

Military macaw

I am sure that few necropsies are performed on birds that die in this manner, but I would put money on the fact that birds that die in bed with their humans do not die from being crushed, but from suffocation.

Birds are pretty pliable and pressure would have to be very intense to actually make them break, but it is easy to prevent them from being able to breathe. A bird’s respiratory system differs greatly from our own. They must decisively expand their chest to make room for the expansion of their air sacs in order to draw breath (our bodies use a diaphragm for this process). Without the ability to make the necessary room for air, a bird would suffocate – even if its head and nares were free and exposed. This is why it is also important not to restrain a bird tightly either in your hand or in a towel or harness.

As if this isn’t enough reason to stop sleeping with your bird, I should also point out the behavioral aspect.

Suffice to say, our birds enjoy sleeping with us as much as we do with them. There is little doubt that a bird that wanted to sleep in the privacy of its cage would either make its way there or would be very vocal until brought there. My cockatiels and quaker regularly return themselves to their cage when they wish to go to bed – the cockatoos would stay with me all night if given the choice. But birds that are allowed that freedom will make a scene when the occasion occurs that they are required to sleep in their cages. That can be unpleasant for you.

Some birds will raise the roof simply because they are being denied doing what they want to do, but some birds will grow to become insecure when away from the perceived safety of their humans protective care at night. This will be unpleasant for your bird and birds should never be allowed to become dependent on a human (or anything else) to that degree.

Even if there were no physically dangerous aspects to sharing your bed with your bird, you run the risk creating a poorly adjusted and mentally insecure parrot.

Please don’t sleep with your bird. We don’t want you to be one of the grieving owners that Wendy gets a call from one day.

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16 Comments on “Why You Shouldn’t Sleep With Your Bird”

Ashley Stine  09/15/2014 4:24 pm

I have a question. I am aware of how delicate a birds respiratory system is. Are cold diffusing pure essential oils as bad or worse than candles , waxes, etc. I’m talking about the young living essential oils. Please let me know what your advice is.

Katie @ Pigeon Netting  09/18/2014 3:23 am

Nice article! Your views are completely true, as it is really becoming dangerous for our pet birds. So it’s better to avoid sleeping with your birds, it would help to protect your bird’s life.

Karen Louise  09/21/2014 3:34 am

I’ve had my galah for almost three years. He comes out to play daily and is very friendly, but I have absolutely never seen him sleep. If I stay up late, so does he. When I get up, he’s awake. I’m considering sneaking up on him in the middle of the night just to see him asleep.

Rach  09/21/2014 3:45 am

My parrot sleep in a bed

Aracelli  09/21/2014 5:08 am

My friend sleep with his bird, but he made his bed a perch.

Lance Fitzgibbons  09/21/2014 3:59 pm

There is nothing so heartbreaking as waking up to find the bird you REALLY fell in love with dead under you. We where new parrot owners, after having babysat our friends parrots for years, we made the jump to ownership. After looking for months we found a little Senegal female that just broke are hearts with her affection. We had two cages, one in the family area and one in the bedroom. It started out with the bird sleeping on a play perch on the outside of her cage, which was in our bedroom. Then we made a little nesting area that “Ali” would sleep in in the recess area of our headboard that was designed to hold books and the like. A couple of mornings we would find Ali nestled up against my wife’s neck or cheek in the morning and thought that was just awesome and loveable.

(People are making mention of poops in the bed. All parrots can be potty trained and all of our parrots have been. It only takes a couple of weeks and they get it. There is a place for the morning ritual and they let us know when on our shoulder when they need to go. So that was never a problem)

Ali was mated to my wife and the two were un-separable. One morning we couldn’t find her. She wasn’t in her nest and obviously not next to my wife’s cheek when we woke up. A frantic search found Ali in the bed sheets – dead. I even tried to breathe life into her little mouth.

That event for my wife affected her deeply. She was very depressed for a long time. We finally got a Meyers for her and I rescued an African Grey. Hard and fast rules are no sleeping with the birds in bed. We still have a cage in the bedroom and we alternate a bird every night in the cage. The birds really enjoy and look forward to going to our room at night for bedtime and the morning rituals in the bathroom, but the cage door is closed and secured for sleep.

Sometimes it takes a tragedy to learn a truth.

petra  09/22/2014 3:55 am

How about putting the birds in a cage and then have the cage in your bedroom? My 2 cockatiels have freeflight and a large cage in the daytime. At night they go into their smaller “sleeping”, “travelling” cage. I would be too scared to sleep with them as I am a heavy sleeper. But my heart goes out to those who have lost their loved ones. I still remember and think about my very first cockatiel. rip

Shirley A. Martin  09/22/2014 11:06 am

I will have to admit that I have let my birds sleep with me but it was only because they were hurt or something. I had a Quaker that had been attacked by a pair of other Quakers and he was bleeding bad. I wrapped him up and held pressure on his leg where it was bleeding. I don’t think he would have made it if I hadn’t kept him close all night. I would not recommend sleeping with your bird under any other circumstances because they love to snuggle close to you and it would not take but just that one time for you to cut off his/her air supply.

Del Dougherty  09/22/2014 11:21 am

My Umbrella Cockatoo has slept, with me since he was 5 weeks old. He goes under the sheet and stays by my feet. If he wants to get out to poop at night he scurries up to my chin and nuzzles my chin. I get up and take him out.
He usually plays with the cat or runs him off the bed.
I forgot to say he is 6 years old and my first parrot. He actually is the light of my life. His name is Sunshine and when I sing You Are My Sunshine he tries to sing and does dance.
My sister had a beautiful Umbrella who broke his foot, went into shock and died getting caught in covering.

Ana  09/22/2014 9:25 pm

I have a pied lovebird and a yellow canary, I have fallen sleep with my lovebird not often but about two times,and I found my bird by my side,I agreed to the facts that birds nerds to sleep @ their cage,
as soon as I get home I spend time with my dear Lovebird,I have him in my room but when started to get darker my lovebird goes to his cage to his canopy to sleep!????????????

Kathy Storch  09/23/2014 1:14 pm

I moved my Amazon parrot’s cage in my bedroom when friends were staying over. My husband and I didn’t think anything of it. A week later, we moved the cage back out. In the middle of a dinner party with my parents, my parrot became very vocal, mimicking a time of intimacy, very loudly, moaning and groaning and finally ending with “yes-yes-yes”.
Yikes! No birds in my bedroom for me.

cherie  09/23/2014 9:20 pm

I have a real problem, I purchased my Goffin’s 8 years ago from a bird store , The store had her on consignment. She was only 4 months old and had been through two different owners. We fell in love immediately and the first night home was a nightmare. She came with all her belongings, toys , cage and nite cover etc. Even though her cage was the same she screamed all night in terror. She would not stop screaming all night. I actually timed her, she screamed every 15 seconds all {ALL} night without a break. For three nights this went on . I thought a smaller cage at the foot of our bed might make her feel better so I tried that. No luck! I laid sideways in bed with my hand in the cage and she sat on my hand through the bars . I discovered the she had a fear of sticks, perhaps the previous owners were afraid to handle her and forced her to perch on stick perches So I took out all the wooden perches.Still no luck.. I also was able to talk to the breeder , I found out she was taken early and flown by air across the country. The breeder was very against it but the buyers had there own airplane and were adamant to take her. She thinks this traumatized her. Well to make this long story less long I just want to say, she sleeps with me and has for eight years. She is potty trained and says” weewee ” when its time to go and I hold her over papers I place on the floor beside me. She never potties on the bed. I would not advise anyone to do this and wish she would sleep alone too however I am a very light sleeper with a painful arthritic condition . Because of that I never move or roll over without waking. She also sleeps above the blankets She is so special its ridiculous. I have 8 other parrots that all sleep in their cages no problem, I am up for any suggestions to help correct this . Ill try anything . But I cant have her scream excessively like she does when she is left alone in a cage at night.

Andrea Sandry  06/17/2015 12:12 pm

So sad. My very first bird died this way in my bed when I was little. It was especially devastating at the time since I was young. While it was a hard lesson, it was still a lesson learned. Great article, hopefully others will change their minds if they currently sleep with their babies.

nada  06/18/2015 3:30 am

Good point!

KB  12/06/2017 7:11 pm

Just last night i had fallen sleep with my very young pineapple conure and I didnt realize that i had fallen asleep with him and i had rolled on top of him not realizing what i had done and now i realize that u can NEVER sleep with your bird and i had to learn that the hard way. if i would have known this before he would still be here. but i have to learn from my mistakes

Antonia  12/12/2017 10:57 pm

Guys i got my 2 baby lovebirds for christmas and i was hand feeding them and they learned to fly around and landed on my head, i slept with them and held them closely… When I wake up one dead.. Under me i was in shock typing this i have tears running down my face im so depressed i was falling in love and then one died and now my other one became very attached, its in bed with me right now but i learned.. Please dont sleep with them i can never forgive myself. Its horrible and im very depressed my mom is very sad to.. I cant believe i did that to my poor baby